5 Steps to Reinvent Your Career after 50! The 5 Steps of Reinvention!
October 11, 2019
Today’s topic the five reinvention steps to creating your dream career after 50! Thanks for staying with us on another segment of 2nd Act TV we’re back with John Tarnoff the author of Boomer Reinvention, John thanks so much for staying with us! Pleasure! What I loved about the book I felt a little like it was you know Stephen Covey meets the Secret. okay I’ll take that! I loved it I really really did and I want our viewers to kind of get a feel for how you built this and what they can expect you know to go with your program, so tell us about the five steps of reinvention. Great well I’ll just pivot off of your very generous comment there about Stephen Covey and The Secret, you know on one hand, yes the seven habits of Stephen Covey I think are a really wonderful prescription for for how to be in business and in life for that matter so I wanted to make a very prescriptive a book write a very prescriptive book that was going to really get people a step by step way forward but also to bring in the secret and the power of clear intention and really to to acknowledge all of the intuitive aspects of career and the book really operates on two overarching principles the first principle is that the career you want and the career that you’re destined for is already inside you this is really about trying to figure out what the authentic mission that you have at this point in your life is and and what you should be following, and then the second important principle is that in order to create the future you have to reconcile the past and particularly for those of us at this age we’ve likely brought along a lot of baggage, issues that we have with ourselves where we kind of beat ourselves up for the missed opportunity or the deal gone bad or we are still resentful of the time that we got fired by the bad boss or whatever those issues are that we may still be be harboring so those are the important ways of getting into the book, and then the five step framework really starts with this concept of reframing, the idea that if you want to make a change you have to recognize that there are a lot of habitual thinking patterns that you’re likely engaging in in your life that need to change and you need to kind of open your way open your mind up to different ways of engaging with the world of seeing yourself of understanding how things work. So the second of the five steps is the listening step and you know listening sounds like a no-brainer but and certainly we want to be able to do a whole body of research about what we want to do what’s out there but I think the most important part about listening actually is really talking to people about who you are what you could be doing what the what the problems may have been in your life, what you’re good at, what you are not good at, so I really advise people to sit down with a handful of trusted friends family colleagues ex bosses are very good fit if you can stomach it because you get that critical constructive feedback that they talk about in HR where it’s the stuff that you you know you need to hear but it may be difficult for you to hear. Well and and one of the things that I wanted to say but you know it I got so nervous it’s in that chapter I know it’s funny the emotion it brings up like do I really want to hear that, it was such a great great point really to do for you reinvention and that’s the uncritical lovers and unloving critics, right we’re all kind of caught between the people that want to be very encouraging to us but aren’t don’t really want to hurt our feelings and and the people who won’t hesitate to to hurt our feelings for whatever reasons they may have that have a really nothing to do with us with you, so so it’s really important to kind of find that path really in between those people who are afraid of rocking the boat and the people who are just going to toss the baby out with the bathwater you’ve got to be you to be willing to hear the important feedback that you need to be able to grow but at the same time not to let the scolds take you down. yeah well and then your third point is accepting so the accepting step I think this is the most difficult step in the five steps. we talked about baggage before, this is really the reconciliation the heart of the reconciliation process where you work to really surface all of these areas in your life that are still unresolved and to ultimately accept them because what we really don’t have a choice this point if we’re going to move on we really need to be able to clear the decks and to to make some kind of accommodation with the past and the mistakes that we made because today those mistakes were lessons one way or another so I think it’s important to to characterize all of the aspects of our life all the journey as a lesson and to come to a place of equanimity with our past so that we can move on into the future, that’s the expressing, and now that is the expressing part, so the last two steps really are the are the steps that take the reinvention, center it deep in it in ourselves and then let us take it out into the world and so the expressing step really is this kind of workshop and it’s back to kind of kindergarten with paints and playdoh where you are using a whole series of techniques which I talk about in the book to to really discover and then in the fifth step it’s about taking it out into the world and that has changed a lot since we first got into into business so you know 20 30 maybe 40 years ago it’s a much more social media driven world and we are very different people that we were then, I believe that we are all one way or another thought leaders and that the experience that we have needs to be represented, my old boss Jeffrey Katzenberg used to say this to the art students that we would go out and talk to at school so you’d say a in a perfect world your art your work speaks for you, but in the real world you have to speak for your art and for your work and I think this applies doubly to us at this age where there is so much ageism out there and there is a lot of reluctance to recognize the value of older workers, so in that fifth connecting stage I provide some some strategies for people to take this idea for the business, for the job position the role that they want to adopt and go out there and make it so! yeah and and you do so beautifully and clearly you know even when you I know you had your your your charts or you know fill this in these exercises I’m going gosh I wonder what he means there, then turn the next page, oh that’s it! so it’s easy to follow it’s a plan that I felt really a lot of people could benefit from could cause you walk us through it and I’m obviously going to you know we’ll link to your books to all your information if somebody wants to get in touch with you directly i know it in addition to an author you’re a speaker, a motivational speaker and offer so much you know to our generation so let’s sign out of this segment and I want to come back and then let’s talk a little bit more philosophical about you know what what this process really involves and the the challenges that we go through in our mind if nothing else to make this happen, so thanks for staying over one more time, we’ll be back on another segment, see you in a minute. 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