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How to Figure Out What to Do With Your Life (Ikigai / Career Sweet Spot) + Free Worksheet

Hi everyone. Welcome back to Lavendaire. Today I want to talk about how to figure out what to do with your life,
especially if you’re in the early stages of being lost. Maybe you’re young, you don’t know where to
take your life. Or maybe you’ve been going down your path
in one direction, and then you’re like, “Wait. I don’t know if I want to keep doing this
for the rest of my life.” So you’re trying to see what you’re going
to do next. Before I go into it, I do have to note that
there’s not one thing that you’re supposed to do with your life. There are an array of options that you could
take your life. So it’s entirely up to you. And also: there is a possibility that you
feel like you want to do this thing for this number
of years and maybe you’ll change and then you want to do something else. I don’t think that life is one set path. There are loops and turns and maybe you’ll
go back to something else, and I don’t know. There’s no way to predict it, but there are
ways to hone in on some clues on what you could be doing with
your life that will make you feel fulfilled, as well as giving you a way to make a living. The way I see it is: You’re born with a set
of gifts, strengths, and talents, and you’re meant to use those. And as you go through life, you’re going to
pick up skills here and there, and I believe you’re meant
to use all of those skills as well. You’re equipped with this set of resources,
and you’re meant to use those to do something that you love, something that
contributes to the world and helps others in some way, and also something
that can help you make money, make a living. Because that’s gonna enable you to keep doing
more of what you love. So there’s definitely a sweet spot where all
of these things overlap and that’s the area where you should be looking towards when deciding
what to do with your life. If you’ve seen my “How to Find Your Purpose
in Life” video–I’ll link it right here– it’s very similar to finding your purpose. But today I want to focus more in terms of
career, what you can do with your life career-wise. In that purpose video, a subscriber actually recommended I check
out the Japanese concept of ikigai. So I checked it out and I was like, “Whoa. This is basically what I’m getting at.” It’s so similar so I thought I’d share that
as well. Ikigai basically means a reason for living. It’s your reason for getting up in the morning. They break it down into four parts and then
the area where it overlaps in the middle is called your “ikigai”. Or I call it “your sweet spot”. You could also call it your purpose or your
mission in life. Whatever label you want to put on it, it’s
essentially the same thing. It’s what to do with your life. The first area is what you’re good at. These are your gifts, your talents, and your skills, whatever you have in your
arsenal. The second part is what you love to do. These are your passions, your interests, your curiosities, things that spark something
in you that get you excited. The next section is what the world needs. These are ways you can contribute to the world, ways you can help others or help society in
some way. The last section is what you can be paid for. These are things you can do that people would pay you for. Brainstorm your skills, things you can offer
to the world. Once you can list out all the things in each
of these four sections, figure out what can overlap. What is in that middle? What is in that sweet spot? And that is your ikigai or your purpose or your reason for living,
what you should do with your life. For those of you who want to work through
this exercise on paper. I’ve made a free worksheet you can download
if you click here or in the description below. If you also want to just save this graphic,
maybe pin it on Pinterest, I put it up on my blog. Links are down below. I’ll just share what I wrote down on my worksheet
so maybe that can spark some inspiration for you when you’re working through yours. “What I’m good at”: I feel like I’m good at
making videos. I’m good at writing. Marketing. Anything to do with visuals, whether it’s
graphic design, photography. I’m good at music. I can sing. I can play piano by ear. I’m good at organizing and planning. And I’m pretty good at directions, like remembering
where I came from and not getting lost, things like that. Things that I love: I love art, visuals, photography,
music. I love performing. I love learning. I love reading. I love improving myself, I love growing. I love sharing things I’m excited about. I love dancing, traveling, exploring new things. And I love getting inspired. In “What the world needs”, I wrote: millennials
on YouTube teaching and talking about self-help and living your
dreams because before I started this channel, I couldn’t really find people my age talking
about this. I just learned it from old people in books. I truly believe the world needs more people
who are confident, loving, supportive, and proactive. People who are actively going for their dreams and giving their best for the world instead
of just settling for what society told them to do. And lastly “Things I could be paid for”: copywriting,
photography, or videography. Social media marketing, a job that requires
organizing or planning. Content-creating, video-editing. Even things like teaching piano, teaching
English. Uber driving because I’m great at driving
and I’m great at directions. But yeah, you guys get the point. After filling out the four areas, I would see if there were any things that
I wrote in all four categories that could overlap and become part of that ikigai. You have to use some creativity here because it might not be so obvious. Obviously, for me, I know that what I am doing
now is something that I love and that I want to
keep doing for the rest of my life. So I feel like I’ve found my ikigai, at least
for now. And so it’s pretty clear for me that I can put all my gifts and talents into
the content-creating business that I have right now. But I do want to note how there are things
in certain bubbles but not all four bubbles. For example: I love music, I love singing,
and I was pursuing music for some time, but I realized it wasn’t contributing to the
world in the way I wanted to contribute to the world. For example: I felt like, with songs, you
can only do so much. Yeah, you can inspire people but it’s not really a direct impact where
I will actively change people’s lives. And I was seeking that direct influence to
be able to help people live their dream. With music, it wasn’t exactly helping the
world in the way that I wanted to help, and it wasn’t exactly giving me as much of
an income as I wanted to live my dream life. And if we look at the last bubble, I could
totally be making a living teaching piano or teaching English in a different country
or even Uber driving, but how much of a waste would it be to just teach piano if I had all
these other gifts of writing and designing, taking photos. So you have to find a way where all these
four things overlap because if you just do something that’s in
one circle or in two circles or even three, you’re missing one other area that’s pretty
crucial. So now, I hope you guys got a better sense
of how you can start to discover what your sweet spot is, what your ikigai
is. Let me know how it goes. Alright, last resource that I want to point
you guys to is this video that I made called “Find Those Moments Where You Shine”
because I realize that even after you do this exercise and this worksheet,
it might not be clear what you should do. It might help you figure out the direction,
but you still have to live life and explore a little bit. So, in that video, basically what I talked
about it: Start paying attention to moments where you’re shining, where you’re glowing,
moments where you’re at your best and you feel like things are just so fun,
things are happening easily because– Just keep an eye on those moments. Be aware because those are clues that you are doing what you should be doing
with your life. For example: I’ve been taking a lot of dance
classes and each class there’s a different teacher, but I notice that some teachers have more
of a glow to them than others. And it’s because those teachers, maybe they’re
glowing because that’s exactly what they’re meant to be doing. They’re meant to be teaching, they’re meant
to empower other people through dance. And in those classes, it’s especially empowering
and inspiring, even if it’s just a hip hop dance class VS
other teachers, I don’t get the same feeling. Maybe those teachers are just good dancers,
but they’re not meant to be teaching. Not to say that they can’t teach at all, but
maybe that’s not where they’re supposed to thrive. So find those moments where you come alive
and you’re thriving and you feel amazing. For me, I feel alive and I feel like I’m shining
when I’m performing or when I’m in the flow of creating a visual document like the worksheet
that I created for you guys. I have a lot of fun doing that. Even when I was in business school, the class that I excelled at was called Business
Communications where we had to write business memos. I had to format all of this visual information in bullet points and make boxes . And I had
a lot of fun with that and I got like an A++ in that class, because
I was so good at making things that are similar to the worksheets that I
create now. It’s so funny, right? So download that worksheet, do this exercise,
but also start paying attention to moments where you shine, moments where you’re thriving
and you’re at your best because these are all the clues that can help
you figure out what to do with your life. Good luck! I really hope you find it because when you
find that thing that you’re meant to do, you’re gonna feel so happy. Your life is gonna feel so full, and you’re
gonna bring your best to the world, which means that we
get the benefits of having your best. You contribute to society, and you make a
living doing what you love, doing what you’re good at. That’s the best of everything. Thank you so much for watching. Please comment below if you plan on doing the exercise because I’m really curious
to hear your thoughts and your results. Alright, see you next time. Bye!

100 Replies to “How to Figure Out What to Do With Your Life (Ikigai / Career Sweet Spot) + Free Worksheet”

  • If you want more worksheets to help clarify your life vision, here's a playlist of all the exercises I've uploaded!

  • Hey, I am from Brasil and your videos inspired me. I love your channel and I love this amazing person that you are. 💜💜💜💜💜

  • 3 minutes in and I have tears forming in my eyes, because I see what I'm already doing is right, just needing an expansion to my masonry and artistic skills to expand into stone carving. As the world has a shortage of stone carvers.

  • OMG!! I seen this title and clicked real fast. I feel lost everyday because I haven't found what I want to do in life. I feel like e everyone around me has found a job that they can stay going to or a career that's for them while I'm left to feel hopeless because I'm not there yet. i know it's not good to compare yourself to others but I have a hard time not doing it

  • I've just watched your video accidentally and I'm so happy. Even though I'm only in 9th grade I'm trying to choose my career so that I am able to choose the university and things like that… But I'm really confused.. I don't know how to fill in that ikigai sheet.. What is your ikigai by the way?

  • This is beautiful! I stumbled upon this today I love your clear communication and your light is shinning through your videos! Thank you for setting this example for us!!! (Y) Really helpful!!! <3

  • I was seeking inspiration but I I don't know why but I wasn't driven to do anything. I felt you were a little bragy for me but the visuals are very good and you are beautiful

  • thank you so much for this inspiring video!! I really needed this video to help me figure out what I want to do in the future 💕❤️

  • I'm grateful to you for making this video that helped me massively to figure out my passion and purpose in life, from my deep heart I love you so much.

  • What do you do when you don't know what you are good at or what your passionate about? What do you do when it has been so long since you have had a "glow" moment you can't even remember what used to make it happen.

    I'm a single mom with a home school kiddo about to graduate. I know I can start doing more things for myself, pursuing my own dreams. However, I have no idea what that is. What makes me happy and fulfilled?

    I'm thinking this exercise will be great once I discover things I find joy in, but how do I find my joy?

  • I struggle a little bit with the 'what the world needs' part. The world needs a heck of a lot of things; peace, no more war, ecological sustainability, less crime,….etc. Is it what I personally think the world needs? Is it what I can do that the world needs? Is it what I love that the world also needs…? Does anyone get me? Please help clarify my thinking.

  • I seen this video through the end. Everything that you listed that you love is what I love too! I think I may know what I want! Thanks a lot for this video. So glad I’m a subscriber !

  • You are, in my opinion and 63 yrs of living, absolutely correct in so much of this video. Finding what makes you glow (you’ll know it when you experience it, as will others when they interact with you) is probably the most important part. It’s your motivation, what helps you get past the not so great parts of your day.
    Have fun with the journey. Ask questions of those in the field you’re exploring (informational interview), and listen to your gut, observe your reactions during the meeting. Are you still excited when you leave, or feel as though you dodged a bullet? That inner voice is your best friend.

  • For a very long time I was lost and this video inspired me in the right place ! Thank you for what you do you’re amazing ❤️

  • Hey….. My worksheet would be veey similar to yours cuz whatever you wrote in that worksheet was every thing I love and do for fun but there are some little things from that that I don't like … Like 1 or 2 maybe.!!!
    Can you help me choose my career btw I'm in 11th grade.

  • Let me tell you I just found your channel yesterday and YOU make me feel so much better about my life. I love your YouTube so much! Thank you for your content! ❤️

  • I am watching the video with my 1.5 year old, and he is reaching out to the computer screen trying to give you a hug <3!!!! He loves you from his first sight :D!

  • Thank you for this video! I was searching myself and found some profound questions, which helped me to find the way of passion. I share them in my last video.

  • Oh wow! I so needed this. I'm starting my life completely anew, and this will definitely help me on my journey to happiness, health, and fulfillment. Thank you so so very much!

  • You are so right, before this channel there was just old people in books 😂 I was just telling my bff about this genre of cool young women telling me how to get my life together , it’s so much more chic and appealing to our generation

  • I recently discovered your pinterest account that lead me to your youtube account and Im so happy to find someone who cares about these topics and is not here just for the fun of it, keep striving and Im looking forward to your 2019 material you are awesome!!

  • Thanks to this method plus some situations in my life, now I know that I want to study Psychology. I don't have any idea if I want something related to a more criminal psychology, or a more clinical one. It's been two years, and I still have one year left.

    If you don't know what career to choose yet, allow yourself to experience new things or looking through collage so you get an idea of what they teach (?), sometimes in the simpliest things you'll find what you really want!

    PD: sorry if my grammar is bad, I'm a spanish-speaker.

  • Ok so i'm 25 and my life is a mess right now, i don't know what path should i follow or maybe i'm not brave enough? Well thanks for this video :")

  • Muchas gracias por traducirlos, haces que tu público sea más amplio y el objetivo de tus vídeos lleguen a más gente, soy nueva subcriptora, saludos desde Perú, bendiciones y muchos éxitos 💕🌺🇵🇪

  • i'm 29 years old now. i'm graphic designer but not really expert. is it too late for me to find ikigai?

  • Such high quality material 🙂
    Thank you for sharing your gift with us. Helped me understand how I may be focussing on only one circle, and so this sense of emptiness in the pit of my stomach, even though I am pretty good at what I do at present.

  • It’s crazy how amazingly cool you are!! Much love and respect for what you are doing! Killing it! 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • Hi, I love this, I have a problem in finding my Ikigai CP's I know I love talking and vlogging but don't know what to talk about or rather vlog about….. As in knowing my niche

  • Thank you lavendaire I'm a 14 year old just been watching your video and I have had a lot of adventures in my life and I have detailed out a little bit of my future and my results have been to teach the world the art of life with many different aspects of life while just doing sport because I'm am very athletic so I will do sports and being unique at it while teaching the world in different aspects of art. So the main two things is sports and educating the world.☀️🌱

  • I really love this video and find it really inspiring. I'm a singer, a songwriter and a classically trained guitarist. Somehow I do feel that I can affect people's lives directly. I know that it's not the most practical approach, but I often find that people get in touch with their emotions during a concert. They cry, they let go and are inspired to do the things they love when me and my boyfriend perform. Maybe when it is one's purpose in life, we are able to touch someone's life directly through music, but it does take a lot of work to get to that point. Especially to earn a living with it as well. Wishing you all the best! So glad you found your purpose and through that are helping lots of people find their inner voice! 😘❤️

  • oh my gosh i'm in love with!😍
    i'm a new in your channel and i found so many videos so much new information i didn't know i needed. also, your english is extremely good that i understand each word without even putting an effort for it although i'm a learner. thank u very much!

  • I'm currently in the process of what I am meant to do. I did cosmetology school and I have a license and I was extremely passionate about it and it made me happy feeling that I could make other people beautiful but at the same time I wanted to pursue something further and I got to finding other careers within the beauty industry and led me to look into cosmetic chemistry and formulation and I'm still debating if it is the right path for me so I think doing this exercise will help guide me there. Based on what I wrote, it seems some things do tend to overlap so it gives me hope that maybe I am sure of where I am

  • This is an amazing video. Life is difficult to figure out. I agree you just have to take time to focus on what you love and figuring out how it can align with your life.

  • I Love your Channel – I am new here and i have this passion inside me that i want to share the world, i just come across your channel and this what i need " so now am going to share my world to this world too and my growing knowledge

  • I have just discovered your channel as I was looking for tips on personal growth and I’ve already watched at least 3 of your videos. I am a first year university student and am completely lost of what I want from life especially pertaining to my career. I love your outlook on life and your tips are very wise. I wish I heard of you sooner! You have already helped so much!

  • you are so pure…in an amazing way <3 🙂 u r my goal but not for the things you do but how u do them…just an idol

  • moment when i shine…. i… can't express hoy thankful i am just for those words…. really thank you, im really glad that i saw this video, really thank you very much

  • so I've been going through these videos and doing the exercises but I'm feeling lost as I do them? I've always been a person who has kept their dreams/goals in the forefront of my mind but over time – although I don't necessarily like to admit it – I feel like I've lost my passion/ambition for the goals. I've never really had a strong drive to compete to begin with however over the recent years, the things I want to pursue and do have just lost.. their joy?? I want to work with animals and I have a handful of ideas on how I could do that but it's been hard mustering up any emotions towards it. There's not really anything else that has replaced my interests in animals or that has brought me more joy than animals do and I still know deep down that I'll be happy working with them.

    I suppose I'm feeling a disconnect from my feelings towards my dreams/goals because I've just gotten so wore out from daily life and handling thing [I'm in school so I'm stuck in the whole 'I'm a student taking classes that I don't want' kind of part of my life.] + I'm pretty certain I'm going through a very strong case of burn out and it's just been hard with having to remind myself that "yes, I want this career, these ideas ARE exciting/fun/bring joy to me" although I can't necessarily experience the same emotions as I once could when I would think about them.

  • This is what I need right now, thank you 💖💖💖 I don't speak Japanese, but the word Ikigai just kind of hit my soul in the way that a poem or song hits me when I need a particular message…
    For context, if you're interested, I have just finished a Bachelor of Computer Science after finishing a Bachelor of Music. I'm working as a Software Developer because it pays the bills, I like the people, and I guess I'm good at it… But what I really love is music and art and creativity fuelled by emotional connections, so I'm trying to make time for that, but it's hard with a full-time job, and I need to just focus on paying bills and getting a stable foundation for myself for this adjustment period after graduation, and every day I tend to question my path without a structured way of questioning, but this way of evaluating things is exactly what I need to focus myself!

  • YOU are such a beautiful soul in + out! I just discovered you subbed!! Love your channel!!😘🙏🏼💜🌟🌟

  • I'm already 23 and still going to college and I'm still searching what would be the best thing to do for me 🤔💕

  • I wish you could upload your videos on bilibili(, which is very popular in China. So more and more people could lear from you. Thanks a lot.

  • What you said about music was really interesting. I get you didn't feel that it was helping the world in the way you wanted to, but if you want a good example of someone's music who is genuinely having a huge positive impact on the world check out BTS. Their music is creating this massive movement towards self love, self respect, connecting with others, and following your dreams.

  • I can't believe this video is posted in 2017 and I'm here in 2019 like, what am I doing back then, not realizing her videos exists?!
    I watched liahyoo's video and that vid is what brought me to you, I'm so thankful for that :))

  • I am so glad I just found your channel, it's just exactly what I needed at this point in my life! 🙂 and funny, because I found you through your natal chart astrology 101 video hahaha i love it! Thank you!!!

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