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Self Esteem – Understanding & Fixing Low Self-Esteem

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  • Too many losers have to quote others top dogs in real life, these suckers are always looking for magical answers. Be yourself instead.

  • I have low self esteem because I'm piss poor and I have immense potential but in order to use or improve upon that potential I need money… So I hate myself for not being able to help my situation.

  • This really helps with what I'm going through right now . Very inspiring. I've been crying the whole video cause alot of those questions I rated them very low .

  • I was gonna wright my life story but then I thought nobody cares about me so ya ig that answers the question

  • My childhood was so fucked up I litterally blocked it all out the only thing I remember is me with my cousin Derek and my dad locking my mom out of our room and forcing me to go to sleep and just idrk but I remember crying and just realizing how much better it'd be to just die and everything go black

  • And idk if I have low self esteem bc most of the thing ur saying I don't do like I respect myself if someone fucks with me my dad tought me to hit. Till the bleed and then hold em down ask em if there done if there not let em back up bc I'm a respectful fighter I don't jump like everyone else from Woonsocket lol I doubt anyone will know what it is and the only fucking thing I want in life is to do something to Chang at least one person's life for the better

  • I honestly believe this is complete psychobabble bullshit. Everyone's childhood is just a sample of what the rest of their lives are going to be like

  • I’m in high school next year is my last year and my self esteems is sooo low I feel like I won’t be able to Graduate it just brings me down

  • The only time my self-esteem isn't shit low is when I've resolved that I'm alone, and nobody could ever understand me or what goes on in my head, so I should just stop giving a fuck. Neither option feels particularly healthy. Either way I'm kind of bitter, and either way, I regret something I said or did at some point. But whatever, fuck it, we're all gonna die one day.

  • You inspired me to write OTHER book about it. But I think this one can help some people anyway: BOOST YOUR SELF-ESTEEEM @t

  • i sent this to my friend.. she has really really low self esteem and she thinks that her sister is being really rude to her but when i see it it looks like shes being rude o her sister but i think its because she is stressed and has low self esteem… thanks a lot i needed this its all i would say to her but couldn't because i didn't know how to describe it also it was coming from a friend so i think its better for it to come from someone else too 🙂

  • I have tons of self confidence but I dont feel like people like me and i have little value to others.

  • All due respect u need 2 redo this video. 90% of your video is about negativity. If you have a person struggling with self esteem you need to focus on why they can be successful and how to b successful. "Go back 2 the past on what may be the cause"? Literally the WORST advice humanly possible. Are you trying to make imbalanced people suicidal? Dude. Listen to some Anthony Robbins tapes for 30 days then try again. This is a huge fail. You can do better. You can video something that will actually help people. Just saying.

  • One of the greatest ironies is that people who lack self esteem in certain aspects of their lives seek out others who have lower self esteem than them to victimize them to take their mind off feeling like a victim. It's funny because if they worked on themselves they could fix the issue but instead they always keep the cycle going. I think the first way to raise your self esteem is to just focus on yourself first and work on developing confidence where it lacks to higher your self esteem. I think that you should basically take these times to just be in it for yourself because when you try to build self esteem is when all the demons of your past and all the people in your life start to attack you to keep you down. They take all forms, the helping hand, the needy person that you owe something to for some reason, the friend that says youre loneliness is what's making you so depressed so you should just go hang out and maybe do stuff you don't even feel like doing, the intellectual that knows exactly what you're problem is and how to fix it, the guy that makes sure you see every problem on Earth was your fault somehow and every one of your mistakes was because you're too pathetic do be able to do anything (letting you forget that people make mistakes sometimes). They come in all shapes and sizes and all sorts of situations. The one thing I've found is that fighting them back or going with them isn't really where the solution is. I think half the battle starts in a journal and in your thoughts getting an understanding of yourself and why you do things and what you want and the other half comes from putting your new strategies into practice with the final piece of documenting what the outcome was. Working on yourself and going on a mission to discover yourself throughout the rest of your life is what's going to make you become a confident person who has the self esteem to say with certainty you know who you are and what you want and you have the practice to figure out how to get it.

    I like to end my thoughts by pointing out that with faith in God you can do anything and God helps you have strength to keep pushing. At the end of the day he's the true meaning to our lives and it helps a lot to know what you're fighting for when it becomes apparently obvious that nothing on Earth seems to be the answer for what your ultimate purpose is.

  • Well, um, I think I just want to say is that I am glad my mom discovered you, since I am 11 years and this might help me out, I honestly have the lowest Of the lowest self-esteem

  • 6 pillars of Self Esteem
    1. Living Consciously
    2. Self Acceptance
    3. Self Responsiblity
    4. Self Assertive
    5. Living Purposefully
    6. Personal Integrity

  • I never feel good enough at work, hate on myself for being clumsy, always had low self esteem after being in all the low grade classes in school and getting bullied for being thick.

  • I had a teacher in high school ask me what I wanted to do when I left school. I answered honestly at the time and said I wanted to be a doctor. Her response planted the seed of doubt and indecision which grew and thrived for years.

  • Love your videos hope to improve my self esteem and take control of life and get back to work and be more happy

  • Thank God for living in a age where we have YouTube. There is alot of crap on YT but the videos that help people who are struggling are so important!

  • i hate myself so much. i hate everything about myself, and everyone else does, too. if i were just gone, everything would be better. i have no friends, i'm just the annoying one who tags along. i've been trying to be someone i'm not for so long that i don't even remember who i am anymore. i don't know how to act. everyone i know is better than me in one way or another.

  • Shyness and low confidence has kept me from enjoying any type of romantic relationship. I've always been shy around women and hadn't had much luck in that area. I've experienced so much rejection based either on my looks or social status to the point where I just feel ugly and worthless and flat out hate myself

  • I was abused physically, emotionally, and sexually as a child. It's because of this abuse that my self esteem is very low. I think I don't deserve anything nice. And I'm not good enough either. I'm depressed all the time. I'm working on everything. I hope to be a happy person someday. 😢

  • “I assume if you’re watching this video then you are one with low self esteem”… hey, FU 🤣🤣
    Seriously tho, I love all your videos 😬🥳🙏🧝‍♀️

  • I know that at this point in my life it's a waste of time to place blame on others

    but I really blame my parents for my lack of self-esteem.
    Lack of affection and support… it feels awful to live a life where you often
    feel like you're no one important so please don't forget to tell your children
    how awesome they are every day and shower them with love ! It must truly
    make a difference.

  • i have extremely negative mindset becoz of many failures in my life of 22 years and now it is getting out of control and i need help..
    i cannot talk with my parrents and i have already lost my close friends, so i am about to finish..

  • i am 23 years and i dont have any girlfriend
    not even a female friend
    BUT thats not issue..
    i failed so many times and now i have extreme negative mindset, i lost my self esteem,confidence,respect.
    i have depression,inferiority complex,i lost my close friends and i cannot talk about this with anyone, so i am helpless and alone.. i choose wrong career path and now my future will dark. and probably i will try to kill myself in future.

  • well, i have been bullied in middle school. I dont know how it started but once it began, i started to hate everyone. Even when people tried to get me into the class tribe feel, i insulted them and told them to leave me the fuck alone. So they started hating me again. After that it was all over and when i came into highschool i started to feel weird whenever i started to talk to someone, when it was not related to school. I felt like i bother them and get on their nerves, even though it was ok. It is still like this today.
    I feel like everything i stand for, the passions i have and even the things i like are bad. I hide my hobbies and passions from everyone and when i dont i feel misserable.

  • I watched this video twice and after second take I had a journey into my childhood and realized where my low self esteem comes from and it was an amazing feeling that brought joy to my heart…thanks Leo your videos are really helping build my life. Awesome dude

  • Excellent video! Very insiteful and inspiring. I can across your videos a good few years ago…. and started watching them again; they helped me then and they certainly helped me now! Thank you!

  • I’m literally a fucking doormat 😂 1/10. Like Theon Greyjoy after he got his dick cut off. I can’t even make eye contact with people. And I don’t know why 👌anyone relate

  • Feel compelled to post this. I awoke this morning, went through my routine…I will come back to this in a moment. I came into my bedroom and looked online about self-esteem,I was just not feeling any motivation hence I feel my self-esteem is looking at zero

    I started counseling 3 months ago, I have not felt or seen any benefits. This was for suspected PTSD. I had two major ops a few years ago, life-changing, I am indoors a lot due to this but since then I have been through what seems like hell, I get moments of clarity and have used this. I used to be very physical but now I can not do this, lost my career and a lot of people whom I considered friends. Ok, I decided in a moment of clarity to teach myself Web Design/Development. I went through my routine this morning, I sat down and started to set myself up to work on my project for a friend, I stopped as I really can not do this today and I am now just finished this video. This happens a lot. I want to be back in the game and make a better future for myself.

    When like this I basically switch off and don't care, this creates a circle of self-criticism and I put myself under the pressure of which I then switch off, even more, I may drink and play music (not a good idea) I push people away. I know what I hate in my life and I know what I want but I feel extremely weak to deal with this. Feel like I have tried everything.

    I have read some comments and I think it should be said that our environment today is a major cause for a lot of us becoming like this, We are so uneducated to what is happening around us. I used to be an engineer and I consider myself to be quite intelligent in this field. I looked at 5G, for example, the other year and I can not believe what I know now. I can research very well. This alone can cause us to be low..Why am I using this example out of many? because we are not paying attention. A lot of people who are where we are so divided by default, stop watching TV it is psychologically attacking us. We will never be balanced or have a fighting chance if we do not see what our environment provides. I moved to a nice place a few years ago, it has helped me a lot, I know I was worse a long while ago, I looked at my environment.

    Thank you for this video but a lot of comments here are indirectly asking for more (self) intervention, yes we can work on ourselves mentally but it can only be treating the symptoms. Yes, we are all different but please consider my points. I researched a lot and it burned me out, it left scars but I am educated and it has helped.

    What I say is not easy but I personally have always felt better by helping others, my reward is mental in the sense I have changed someone for the better, the small things are the big things we do not see enough of anymore. Why is this???? What I state is not easy but it can be done small, it will be big for yourself, trust me on that,
    I use a saying today (self-integrity) "Be what you want to see" this promotes what you see as lacking within your environment. Thanks for reading I could go on. I hope this speaks to someone, even just one person. I feel better sharing this and I might conquer what I awaken to do this morning, By watching this video I have already started to focus on myself… I did not feel this before I wrote this. Strength is not what society makes it out to be, stay away from negativity, it changed my life but first learn to spot what is not good for you, you will be surprised, I have left clues in this comment (ok its almost a novel lol)

    One thing I will say is that Big corporations and Government are not here to help us, we have full control over ourselves now like it or not, I know I sound crazy but I have learned this the hard way, its time to look after your own self and stop trusting those that use us.. please consider this as it can help, it can get harder before you get better, it was never going to be easy. If we have something in common with somebody its usually a good start to stop being alone, I have great friends today who are all awake. Life is easier, my scars are what dictate my negative but it was worse.

    Peace and love to you all -Mark

  • It's so stupid nowadays that if you don't like yourself they'll tell you that you want attention but if you love yourself you become egocentric

  • Ok, get into this or show me a video, dealing with someone (ref. to 18.00) who ask this of you that you feel defenseless to. It's obvious you can't make them love you or allow you your opinion if they are narcistic. My question is, if we are here in a toxic atmosphere, how do we combat a toxic abuse if we can't leave right away. My boyfriend (along with all the other terrible life choices I loved at one point) are emotionally mute and I would call them cruel. The dismiss me and rewrite my opinions and then say they don't. I am aware this is narcistic and am trying to get myself to a place of more confidence. I need to know more how to shift if your in it deep. Its like ever assertive thing I try to do , not only him but my family often too, belittle and berate me . They often use terms like difficult and indifferent to everyone. they single me out as thinking of only myself or thinking I'm better when often I am feeling judged and  alone. How do you leave a life time of people  that raised you to be their scape goat, and the ones you added because you thought it was normal for people to treat you that way. I'm not rich, and there is no proof I need help. It is so terrifying to know the problem but not see an ending that doesn't result in everyone you love not being in your life. It is basically what it would be though.

  • What helped me the most was when I discovered that I must stop caring what others think of me and start deeply caring what I think of myself.
    That's when I met a wonderful, caring person who has become my best friend. Me.
    I now direct all of the energy I used to waste trying to please others, who inevitably ended up despising me, toward myself.

    This was the key to the prison I had been in for fifty years.
    The other thing I hope others may understand from this is that it is never too late to change and break free.

  • This whole video feels like he's doing NLP- "you feel stupid", "you feel you're not attractive", "you have no control over your life" etc., while taking precious little time going over actually fixing self-esteem issues. Weird vibes.

  • I used to be comfortable with who I was, I had very healthy levels of self esteem. I met some very toxic friends who took all of that so I would be on the same level as them, I’m trying to earn it back though.

  • It's not me – its them. I want to have sex with a girl, just no girl wants it too. How is it my fault? And why would I think bad of ME? I only ask for what I would give myself.

  • Wow, all the negative examples you gave were in my list. I have some serious low self-esteem issues. I lost a girl because of this issue and I regret for not working on my self-esteem in the past. Oh God, I really want to become a strong person, but without strengthening the base, everything else crumbles with it when I face social difficulties.

  • I feel crazy.pls help me.please.please.I have the lowest self esteem and also the Highest self esteem.pleaseplease please help me before I hang myself.

  • I always thought self-esteem is measured on your thoughts that you don't deserve to be treated like a doormat. I never thought of it as me not believing in myself that I am competent to handle the pressures of life.

  • Love this!

    Would love it if you checked out my channel. Self help and spiritual geared videos.

    First one in on my channel! Would love to connect.

  • I think there is no way to fix it. I've been trying to but the "try and try until you succeed" thing never happened. I can't raise my self-esteem up!

  • Person: You're good at music. Can you teach me?
    Me: Meh.

    Person: Your artwork is amazing. You could get paid for this.
    Me: Meh.

    Person: You're not funny and your jokes are terrible.

  • Low self esteem from constant rejection in all areas of life (job,peers,family,relationships) is no easy feat to overcome. It can seem their is no way out. If people don’t see you of worth its difficult for the person struggling to believe in themselves. And instead believe what the masses have to feel about you.

  • I’m probably 2-3’s for both self-efficacy and self-respect. And I’m lacking so much in all the 6 pillars lol. I have low self esteem because I was bullied by many people as a young kid. I was told all kinds of insults, the ones I heard the most was that I was ugly and weird. I have felt ugly and weird ever since. My entire life so far has been a lonely and miserable one. Idk how I’m gonna do it to work on all 6 pillars of self esteem and my self-image cause it’s really bad. I mean I have body dysmorphia which pretty much tells you where I place my worth as a person. I feel that I need to look perfect in order to deserve happiness, I know that no human on earth has a perfect appearance, but psychologically I cannot accept this. My mind tells me that I’m ugly and unloveable and unless I look a certain way, then I’ll never be happy. But at the very least I’ve started to practice positive affirmations lately. It’s a start.

  • My father wouldn't let me share my thoughts or contribute to any thing he talked about since I was 10 years. This kind of made me think I was useless and had nothing productive out of me.

    I wouldn't contribute to anything in the class/ even asking a question because I had this mind 'ohhh they'd say what the f** I was talking about'.

    Thank you for this video, It has given me new energy and I see boosting my low esteem.

    Thanks a million.

  • "Maybe you feel like you're not smart, maye you feel you're not attractive, maybe you feel like you're clumsy, maybe you feel like you're bad with money, maybe you feel you're bad in relationships, maybe you feel like you're very shy, maybe you feel like you're unlovable" – Everything in the list fits with me 🙁

  • I literally avoid mirrors and pictures because I have no self esteem, this is an amazing and very helpful video, tears literally ran down my face during this video.

  • Leo my sons name is Leo. You're an amazing human being. I wished more Leo's were like you. My sons name is Leo. I hope he turns out to be an amazing man like you. ❤🙂

  • I have low self esteem, i know it, everybody around me knows it. And it is my fault, im the kinda guy who everybody avoids. Why, you ask? Well nobody wants to be around weird, boring, awkward guy who has nothing to talk about and suck at talking in general. Therefore, romantic relationships are non existent, work oportunities are very limited and so on and so on.

    But i don't consider myself as a victim or something, also i don't let people walk over me, and no it's not because i think i have a value, its because i don't want to deal with bullshit when i know i won't succeed anyway. So…i rather isolate myself than deal with them. This is just how society works, you have no value = you're an outcast.

    I understand that i don't deserve happines and i deserve everything bad that happens to me. This is just how the world works, weak people are doomed and i accept it. It's only a bit sad that piece of shit like me is wasting space on this earth, while others who could do great things are not even alowed to live.

  • Self efficacy:
    1. If you are wheelchair bound you can't become a good runner?
    2. Child: school is a closed environment where sadists (kids, teachers and so on) work together, and by law you need to attend that cesspool. If you are being abused you "can't" leave? Adult: If you are a victim of forced fatherhood, how can you stop loving your kids and be free?
    3. If you need your job to earn money?
    4. If you have terminal cancer, can you cure it?

  • Ot's unbelievable, the amout of ppl, who feel this way, (Low Self Esteem), such as Ii & all do to, childhood trauma.. G.Bs us all.

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